Privilege again
Jun. 17th, 2009 04:12 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
kilroySo as an aside, when the conversation turns to "societal pressure makes it really hard to be That Guy," what exact negative consequences are these people referring to if you act like That Guy?
I'm seriously asking this, because the men I grew up with didn't exert this kind of pressure.
Other guys call you names and make fun of you for being respectful towards women? Okay, I can see that being fairly common. But it's not exactly a dire threat, you know? "Being made fun of" should never cause anyone to stop doing anything they love or think is right. (I know, I know, this in fact happens a lot.)
Other guys do violence to you for being respectful towards women? I can envision this in theory, but I can't imagine it's that common in practice. If a guy's beating you up because you're respecting women, I'd lay extremely good odds that he's actually beating you up for something else; respecting women was just a convenient excuse and if that hadn't come along the guy would have found some other reason.
...and that's all I can think of. What am I missing? Is there something legal or economic here?
I'm seriously asking this, because the men I grew up with didn't exert this kind of pressure.
Other guys call you names and make fun of you for being respectful towards women? Okay, I can see that being fairly common. But it's not exactly a dire threat, you know? "Being made fun of" should never cause anyone to stop doing anything they love or think is right. (I know, I know, this in fact happens a lot.)
Other guys do violence to you for being respectful towards women? I can envision this in theory, but I can't imagine it's that common in practice. If a guy's beating you up because you're respecting women, I'd lay extremely good odds that he's actually beating you up for something else; respecting women was just a convenient excuse and if that hadn't come along the guy would have found some other reason.
...and that's all I can think of. What am I missing? Is there something legal or economic here?